Dysfunctional families and Lanka
I’ve recently realised that most Lankan families are dysfunctional. There are very few that are ‘normal’. But then the definition of ‘normal’ again is subjective. It could be the absence of violence, abuse, adultery..or what not. This dysfunctionalism is evident from the highest rungs of the social ladder all the way down to the bottom. It’s really sad. Maybe it is connected to sex. And Sri Lankans lack of ‘open-ness’ whenever they’re around that topic…like a fellow blogger (i forget who) so aptly pointed out recently. Maybe we’re all sexually frustrated and need to take it out on married women, young boys, six year old school girls, refugees, and unmarried young girls in border villages who obviously must belong to a minority.
My family has it’s moments of dysfunctionality. Sometimes it’s soo fricking bad that you’re like. "Shit! I’m related to these people! I hope it’s not fucking hereditary!!". Give it a couple of days and everything’s swept under the rug, and again you’re like, "Wait! What happened?! I thought there was going to be some serious drama here!". I guess in a way God decided, in the begining, that dysfunctionalism and Sri Lankans go so well together cos it’s an inherited talent we all posess; the abiity to pretend that there’s nothing wrong.
So we trudge along. We abuse..we beat..we cheat..we abandon. And it passes onto our kids and there evolves a whole new chapter of dysfunctionality. And so they say the story goes.
